(Part 3)
From the previous articles we have learned we are souls and we are here to evolve. Evolution requires time, process and a lot of mistakes.
Evolution is a practice of learning, purification, and growing to be wiser and more practical. By living in pain and resentment nothing will happen. We will be stuck in mud of lower human qualities. Now, the question is, how to forgive and let go.
I believe, forgiveness is not only one of the most difficult lesson that the soul needs to learn, but it is an art to be able to act according compassion and mercy while you are hurt. Imagine, someone has hurt you so badly, if you want to have inner peace you need to forgive. How difficult is that? Yes, very difficult.
To learn how to forgive, you must first learn what forgiveness is not. Here are the lists of what forgiveness is not:
Forgiveness is not forgetting. Many people think they need to forget whom who has hurt them. Often people tell me, I would like to forget but I can’t. And my answer is, you can’t forget the past, it is a part of your life, but forgive and forget the pain.
Forgiveness does not mean to accept the person in your life. You can forgive and let go and you are not obligated to be with the person for the rest of your life.
Forgiveness does not mean you must like/ love them again. You can forgive and lose interest to the person as well.
Forgiveness does not mean you need to tell them you have forgiven them. You can internally forgive without them knowing.
There is both Inner Forgiveness and Outer Forgiveness. Inner Forgiveness is for all people, but Outer Forgiveness should be done on a case-to-case basis. If the mistake or the crime is serious, the offender cannot be forgiven externally. There has to be justice and order without which there will be chaos.
Grand Master Choa Kok Sui
Forgiveness is not for them. By forgiving others, you are not doing a favour to other people, but to yourselves.
So, if forgiveness is something you do for yourself to be healed, then why is so difficult? It’s difficult because, either you are addicted to the adrenaline that anger provides, or you feel superior being begged to forgive, or you are waiting for karma to revenge them so you can enjoy seeing them hurt, or you enjoy being victim so people can have empathy on you. Or you afraid to forgive them so they might leave or get connected to you. Or you don’t know how to forgive.
Forgiveness can’t be forced. Sometimes other people ask you to forgive so that a conflict can be solved. But, No. that’s not how it’s done. Forgiveness can’t be forced, or pushed. It needs willingness. It means you need to reach to that level of awareness and realisation that holding to anger is not serving you anymore. When you have reach to that level then you are ready physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually to let go.
“By Forgiving and Blessing, you stop wallowing in mud and you achieve Inner Peace and Freedom.”
Grand Master Choa Kok Sui
So how to do that?
Seat in a quiet and comfortable place and close your eyes.
Inhale slowly and deeply, exhale slowly and deeply. Do it several times till you feel relaxed and grounded.
Visualise the person whom you would like to forgive Infront of you. Look deeply into their eyes. Allow yourself to feel what comes out. If you feel angry, allow yourself to feel angry. If you feel regret, allow yourself to feel regret. If you feel mad, allow yourself to be mad. If you feel stupid, sad, loved allow yourself to feel. If you feel like crying, allow yourself to cry. Every feeling is valuable. They carry certain energy. Just allow yourself to feel. This might take several minutes. Don’t hurry, take your time. Anytime you feel uncomfortable, just inhale and exhale slowly and deeply. After feeling every emotion, while looking at their eyes, silently say: I Love You. I’m Sorry. Please Forgive Me. Thank You. Repeat this part several times and be aware on how you feel.
Now visualise their body turns to a brilliant white light. Now we are greeting their souls. You may put your hand in namaste position on your heart chakra and silently say:
Atma Namaste.
I the soul salute the divinity within you,
I the soul salute the Atma (soul) within you,
We all are children of God,
We all are created by Him,
We all are evolving,
Evolution requires time,
process and a lot of mistakes.
I forgive all the mistakes
you have done to me.
I ask forgiveness for all the mistakes
I have done to you.
The blessings of God be with you.
Atma Namaste.
Go in peace.
Go in peace.
Go in peace.
Keep doing this till you feel less resentment to the person.
We have to be realistic, we are all souls, we all are evolving and nobody is prefect. Bless those who have hurt you and break the chain of anger. Let other souls grow and be better.
By Dr. Mina Asr
Reference:
Master Choa Kok Sui. Experiencing Being: The Golden Lotus Sutras on Life
